You’re expecting your second baby? Congratulations! If you’re wondering how to prepare your older child for the new arrival… here’s some helpful advice.
Defuse the situation
Since you announced the good news, has your first child turned into a real “little monster”? It’s quite understandable. As the oldest, he or she has been used to being the only child, the centre of attention and the focus of all your love and concern. So the arrival of a second baby is generally pretty unsettling! Attention shifts to the coming baby and your first child may feel a little abandoned. Fortunately, the situation can be remedied!
Second baby: how to restore the balance
First step: explain things clearly to your older child. In particular, talk to him or her about this new baby, who will be too small to be a playmate to begin with. Explain that new babies need lots of attention during the first few months because they are unable to do anything for themselves…
Spend time with your older child
When you first come home after the birth, you will be pretty busy. However, make sure you set a little time aside for baby’s big brother or sister. Give plenty of cuddles and play with your older child. Explain that you still love him or her just as much and spend as much time as possible together. Don’t hesitate to ask your partner to take over. Is your oldest child fretting and worrying? Show that you understand how he or she feels. And remember to give compliments too. It’s important to comfort a big brother or sister, at a time when family and friends are cooing over the adorable new baby!
The arrival of a second baby is a major upheaval for both parents and big brother or sister. What was your experience?